It's such a simple question, but more often than not, people will ask you and keep on going without actually stopping to listen to what you have to say. If you do find yourself in this situation, don't give up! Talk to someone else, a friend, a family member, or a helpline. Whatever you do, don't give up - there are people who genuinely care!
When you ask someone R U OK? make sure to stop and listen, help them to get over the hurdle, offer advice and check in from time to make sure they are getting there. Remember that we all vulnerable at some stage of our life and that we need a bit of a push, so do a good deed. It could save a life.
And karma will repay you!
If you aren't OK, please talk to someone and just remember that you are precious and amazing and you deserve nothing but the best! There is help available, so don't try to do it on your own! It's OK to not be strong, it's OK to need help, advice, someone to listen.
Here are some helplines that you might find useful:
Lifeline - 13 11 14 - 24/7 telephone crisis support, as well as online one-one-one crisis support (8pm-Midnight AEST)
Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - 24/7 professional telephone crisis support for people at risk of suicide, carers and bereaved, as well as online resources and information
Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800 - 24/7 telephone counselling for young people 5–25 years, as well as online and email counselling (check website for hours)
ReachOut.com - Online crisis and mental health information for young people 14-25 years
headspace - Online support for 12-25 year olds, including mental health, drug and alcohol issues
National Sexual Assault, Family and Domestic Violence Counselling Line and Website - 1800 RESPECT (737 7328) - 24/7 confidential telephone counselling and online chat service about domestic violenceSANE Australia - 1800 18 SANE (7263) - Telephone mental illness advice and referrals, weekdays 9am–5pm AEST, as well as online resources and information
beyondblue - 1300 22 4636 - Info line for depression, anxiety and related disorders, as well as online resources and information. You can also search for a mental health professional by postcode here.
Black Dog Institute - Clinical and research expertise and community education about depression and bipolar disorder
I wrote about suicide in my R U OK? post in 2013 - simply because I found it chilling how many people decide to take their own lives in those dark moments - we see it in the media too often and it's alarming. It's important to love yourself and it's heartbreaking how this just disappears in those moments of darkness and desperation. I wish it didn't happen to anyone. Ever.
So my lovely readers, R U OK? Stop, reflect and ask yourself and others. Take time to listen, support, encourage and be there for others and for yourself!
Life is precious! And so is happiness :)
Smile and be happy :)
Ms Jelena xx