I wasn't very independent, instead, I relied on other people's help. I don't know why. I don't know how either, because my parents tried to make me more independent and confident, but it just didn't work. It worked with my brother, but it didn't with me.
Then things happened and I got this urge to wake up, shake up and start living!
I decided to move out and that's how I ended up in Melbourne! Ha! Because moving to another suburb just didn't seem like enough of a move! Not really, it's just that I really liked Melbourne, so I thought why the hell not!
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All jokes aside though, it was one of the best things I have ever done! I've learnt so much and my only regret is not doing it sooner! I've grown up so quickly! I had responsibilities! For the first time in my life, I was a grown up! Bills, rent, cooking, cleaning, work! I was in charge of it all!
I have to admit that I really enjoyed it all, having responsibilities and knowing that whatever doesn't get done is your own fault is really amazing! You actually start to appreciate what others do for you in a different way, but you also realise that you can do it yourself too!
Juggling work, housework, social life and staying sane wasn't the most easy breezy thing I've done, but it shaped me into a more confident person that knows that she can fend for herself and do a good job of it!
For me, it's all been quite empowering! I realised that I'm capable of much more than I thought I was. This (among other things) helped me become more confident, stand my ground and just realise that I can do anything! If other people can, then so can I!
Living on my own also helped me get to know myself better - being alone doesn't mean being lonely! And to be honest, I never felt lonely. I took the time to get to know myself, my likes and dislikes and to really just take time out and enjoy the moment! I think being on my own has really helped shape me into a person that I am today and to not be influenced or defined by other people and, don't quote me on this, but I do believe that this has made me into a better person and a better partner! Noone likes to babysit their own partner - independence, on the other hand, is quite sexy!
Things have changed now and I'm living happily with my hubby, but I'm glad that I took the plunge and had my living alone stunt for a while! It's really made me into a stronger and better person that doesn't have to rely on others.
So my darlings, if you are still living at home or with friends, think about living on your own a go if you can! It's empowering, amazing, fun and good for your confidence! If you can do it financially, but aren't sure about the rest, I dare you to do it - you will not regret it!
Ms Jelena xx